I m dating a shy guy
They might not be super exciting dates, but these calmer choices may help him loosen up by giving him a chance to understand more about you.
Avoid crowds or wild venues with which he may be unfamiliar until he is more comfortable with you.
This acceptance will be evident to the guy and can make him more receptive. Starting out as friends can help couples learn about each other.
The lack of pressure in a friends relationship can help a quiet guy open up and also help him learn to trust before a more risky relationship is attempted. Keep everything on a superficial level to avoid him becoming intimidated. Quiet personality types are more of the thinker types.
Crushes on quiet guys can turn into deep relationships with effort. Quiet people will not suddenly become loud and flamboyant any more than the life of the party will become the wallflower.
If the crush is a strong one, acknowledge that this is a character trait of the person you like and make a resolution to refrain from trying to change the person into someone more outgoing.
She may not know how to gain intimacy with him, causing her to end the potential relationship and find another.
Relationships with quiet partners often take time to develop.
If you are crushing on a shy guy, I definitely recommend that you read The Rules, by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider.
But I don’t know many women who enjoy being the good-enough-for-now option.
If each woman in situations 1 - 7 were to get the ball rolling herself, or help the man date her and make excuses for his behavior, she would simply be prolonging the agony of being in a go-nowhere entanglement.
You could find yourself in an entanglement with a man who's not really sure how or why he got there.
FROM ASTRID & MIYUIf you identify with any of these situations, I will let you in on a secret: the “problem” in each of these scenarios is not that the man is shy or inexperienced.