Body language for women when dating
It’s often tough to figure out whether a girl really feels attracted to you or not.
Sometimes she’s just trying to be polite and doesn’t want to break your heart.
Remember: It’s just as important to pay attention to your date’s signals as it is to communicate properly with your own body.
Thomas has an acronym that he uses with his clients: SOLD — Smiling, Open Body Language, Leaning, Direction.
“I teach my students a number of other listening, empathy, and self-confidence skills before we progress to external techniques.
I work from the ‘inside out’ because if you fix the internals, you actually don’t have to work on the externals.
It’s the kind of body language that we naturally adopt when we’re into someone, but Thomas’ knows that getting comfortable enough to automatically do these things can be really hard for people.“Practice until it becomes a habit,” Thomas says. Steph Curry doesn’t fake his three-point shots; he practices his three point shots.”Ben’s number one tip for body language on a first date was actually the most surprising: Forget about body language and just listen to your date.“The moment you focus on body language it means you're being self-centered — you're more concerned with your own inner voice or manipulating the situation to truly connect with your date,” Ben says.But first, check out the latest episode of our Sex and Relationships podcast, "I Want It That Way": Both Ben and Thomas recommend doing power poses as a great way to use body language to pump yourself up before a date.Power poses were introduced to the world in a 2012 TED Talk by Amy Cuddy and they’ve gained massive popularity since then, probably because they’re a quick, easy way to help people feel great about themselves.As humans, we’re hard-wired to know how to do all of the body language stuff; we just make the mistake of f*cking up the mindsets which leads to us layering on ‘hacks’ to try and achieve the same result.”But rest assured: Ben says he still teaches external hacks like the ones listed above, because they can also be helpful when you’re trying to get over whatever internal issue is making you feel so awkward. When a girl is attracted to a boy, it’s often way too subtle.